Hello.
At the present time, my normal carry loads and what is in my .45's right now are either Remington 230-gr. Golden Saber or Winchester 230-gr. Ranger (RA45T). Both are standard pressure loads.
Both have proven accurate and utterly reliable in my pistols. Both seem to expand nicely, though I suspect the Winchester is more consistent over a wider range of variables. That said, I have zero complaints with the Remington load. In a deer that I killed using this load, the jacket did separate from the bullet core, but this evidently occurred during the last couple of inches of penetration.
These loads seem to perform well in the 4 and 5" guns, but begin to fall off performance-wise in the shorter bbl pistols. Were I carrying a short 3 to 3.5" .45 auto, I'd go with the Corbon DPX "Compact Gun" load...but this is unlikely as I much, much, much prefer 5" bbls to the short ones.
If interested, here are some links on this topic:
http://www.hipowersandhandguns.com/Corbon%20.45%20ACP.htm
http://www.hipowersandhandguns.com/45%20ACP%20Golden%20Saber%20Field%20Report.htm
http://www.hipowersandhandguns.com/Corbon%20160%20gr%20DPX.htm
FWIW, I also think highly of the very accurate 200 and 230-gr. Hornady XTP factory ammo, be it sold under their "Custom" or "TAP" or whatever that third label is. With the 200, I prefer +P, but in the 230-gr, standard has proven fine. Most of my shooting with these bullets has been with handloads however, but they've been in the same velocity range as the factory rounds. The XTP doesn't expand as aggressively as other JHP's, but it does seem to be consistent in tissue. The bullets I've recovered from deer, javelina, etc have more closely matched what I've seen in the homogeneous test media I've used, be it water or wetpack.
It wouldn't bother me at all to carry 200-gr. XTP +P, or the 230-gr. XTP for "serious" purposes.
Best.